Keeping Your Cool When Things Get Heated

Have you ever been in a conflict so intractable that no matter what you said it seemed to inflame, rather than pacify, the other person? Have you ever looked deeply into another person’s eyes as they became more and more agitated and belligerent and realized they were not arguing with you but were railing against an invisible enemy?

In these situations, it’s often best to unhook and walk away rather than insist on resolving things in the present.

We often face these kind of situations in life—with a boss, a co-worker, or a family member. These days, we also have an incredibly polarized public life, and stakes often feel extremely high.

The power to remain poised and self-possessed is more valuable than ever. If we fail, we unwittingly contribute to an escalation of hostilities. If we succeed, we bring some much needed peace into the world.

In this webinar, we teach a tool to help you break this cycle, regain your peace and equanimity, and ultimately become part of the solution.

Barry Michels is coauthor of The Tools, a New York Times bestseller, and its sequel, Coming Alive. The resident therapist for goop.com, he has appeared on Nightline, Charlie Rose, and The Dr. Oz Show, has given a Google Talk, and has been featured in The New Yorker, Time Magazine, Psychology Today, and Vanity Fair. Barry has a BA from Harvard, a law degree from University of California, Berkeley, and an MSW from the University of Southern California. He has been in private practice as a psychotherapist since 1986.

Kristan Sargeant is a coach and therapist committed to helping individuals and organizations realize their full potential. A passionate advocate for women, she has produced three TEDxWomen events and coached more than 30 TEDx speakers. Prior to starting her private practice in 2007, she built an international wellness company from the ground up and grew it to over $500m in revenue. Kristan has a BA from Columbia University, an MA in counseling psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute, and spent a year studying Medieval and Renaissance literature at Cambridge University.

Date of original webinar: November 1, 2020