The Miracle of Good Boundaries

Relationships cannot flourish without boundaries. Whether you’re dealing with a spouse, child, friend, or any other connection, you have to be able to say “no” to the other person and then emotionally detach from the distress your “no” causes.

Have you ever found yourself in any of these situations?

• A friend or family member asked you to do something—babysit their kid, lend them money, or just listen to them complain—and you did it even though you didn’t want to?

• After saying no to someone, you spent a few hours or a few days in turmoil because they were hurt or angry.

• Someone close to you is struggling with an ongoing problem—substance abuse, chronic worry, self-sabotage, etc.—and you can’t stop trying to “fix” the problem for them, as if you need them to take your advice?

The bottom line is this: setting boundaries and sticking to them can seem next to impossible.

But there’s good news.

As a psychotherapist, Barry Michels has spent the more than 35 years teaching people to set boundaries and stick to them.

In this 2-hour webinar with Barry and therapist/coach Kristan Sargeant, you learn how to set a boundary and let the chips fall where they may. You learn to how to use several tools to support you in this process, including an entirely new Tool called Sacred Observation. Until now, this Tool has only been available to Barry’s and Phil’s patients—this is the first time it will be taught publicly.

Old timers, lapsed tools users, and complete newbies will benefit from this program.

Barry Michels is coauthor of The Tools, a New York Times bestseller, and its sequel, Coming Alive. The resident therapist for goop.com, he has appeared on Nightline, Charlie Rose, and The Dr. Oz Show, has given a Google Talk, and has been featured in The New Yorker, Time Magazine, Psychology Today, and Vanity Fair. Barry has a BA from Harvard, a law degree from University of California, Berkeley, and an MSW from the University of Southern California. He has been in private practice as a psychotherapist since 1986.

Kristan Sargeant is a coach and therapist committed to helping individuals and organizations realize their full potential. A passionate advocate for women, she has produced three TEDxWomen events and coached more than 30 TEDx speakers. Prior to starting her private practice in 2007, she built an international wellness company from the ground up and grew it to over $500m in revenue. Kristan has a BA from Columbia University, an MA in counseling psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute, and spent a year studying Medieval and Renaissance literature at Cambridge University.