Meet Part X

The Exposure Tool:

So far we've focused on what to do when Part X takes you over. But what do you do when someone around you—a family member, friend, or even a random bystander—succumbs to Part X and suddenly starts attacking you? The content of what they're saying is often exaggerated and distorted, but what's even more upsetting is the way they're attacking you—unhinged, wildly exaggerated, out of touch with reality. It's clear the other person has lost perspective. But something far more significant is happening. The other person is (at least temporarily) possessed by Part X. When that happens, you need to use the tool, "Exposure." You can't exorcise the other person's demons, but you can prevent them from triggering your own. And that goes a long way toward ensuring a quick de-escalation.  

Step 1: See a red “X” floating above the head of the other person.

Step 2: Say the following silently to yourself:

  1. "So and so is temporarily possessed by the primitive forces of the universe."

  2. "I didn't cause that to happen and I am powerless to make it go away."

  3. "For as long as so-and-so is possessed, I renounce all hope of

    1. Being loved

    2. Being seen accurately for who I am

    3. Being understood, or

    4. Hearing the truth.  (In fact, I will hear blatant falsehoods.)"